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Sunday, June 10, 2018

Its Shocking How Oprah Winfrey failed Us (And broke my heart)

The problem with introspection is that it has no end.” Philip K. Dick

Few people in history, especially of the feminine gender have been remarkable. Oprah seems to be that kind of lady, who expressed herself as a trailblazer in the billionaire scene. She was the first female black billionaire and the only black billionaire from 2004 to 2006.

One thing about her is that she influences a generation of women and to them is a goddess on earth. It’s a terrible thing to press the publish button on such a post. I know how deified she is. However, she failed us all in one aspect, and “break my heart”. I’m not so much a fan of hers; she didn’t break my heart but broke that of my friend Fuh.

This post is a result of thousands of research from interviews to archives on blogs and a biography of hers. Hear me out and never be the same again.

Oprah’s roller coaster on getting slim

Oprah Winfrey is probably the best-known dieter in the world. For more than 20 years, fans and the press all over the world have watched her weight go up and down.  Back in 1988, they applauded her success when she lost 30 kg on a liquid-protein diet. Two years later, they wept when she announced that she had gained back all the weight and “would never diet again.”
By 1992, Oprah’s weight had gone up to 107 kg (huge), and she went on another slim course.  This time she did it more sensibly, combining no fatty meals with lots of exercise, particularly running. 

By 1994, she had dropped the weight and ran a marathon. It looked as though she had won the battle until a year later, when the weight started inching back.

In 1996, she hired a personal trainer Bob Greene, saying in an interview that at last her “weight saga” was over. She remained active and fit for a number of years, but she eventually began regaining weight, and by 2004 she was back up to 108 kg.
She once again made weight loss a public goal, dropping 36 kg and appearing on the January 2005 cover of O magazine at a 72 kg. “I thought I was finished with the weight battle,” she wrote earlier that year. “I was done. I’d conquered it. I was so sure . . .” In the January 2009 issue of O, Oprah confessed that she had reached the 100kg mark again. “I’m mad at myself,” she wrote. “I’m embarrassed. . . . I can’t believe that after all these years, all the things I know how to do, I’m still talking about my weight.”
Flash forward to today, it is 2018 and she has succeed for more than a year now to keep 20kg off and gain just 12.
Moving from talk to setting an Intention and staying in that Intention is no easy task, as Oprah has discovered. 

Oprah, of course, is an experienced dieter. She probably qualifies for more than a degree in the dieting and slim course subject.

However, despite a fan and press support groups, the best coaches that money can buy, and a media attention on her weight lost goal, she has not yet mastered the ability to lose weight permanently.

A quick look on why Oprah failed on this aspect

Oprah probably knows the secret of goal setting. It is now a revealed secret and probably everybody loves experiencing the exhilaration gained from dopamine once we achieve a set goal.
Oprah’s main problem was that her goal was almost SMART. But one aspect was lacking. Her goal was:
Specific– lose 50- 70 kg
Measurable– she could determine once she had achieved the goal
Attainable– yes her bone structure permits her cut down
Realistic– yes the goal is realistic; it wasn’t an “I believe I can fly” scam by R. Kelly. She actually could become smaller
Time bound:  No. she set a very low time frame to this goal. This goal was to get from a weight loss goal, to a habit goal and a lifestyle goal, that’s character.  And the time frame for such a goal is far higher than what she gave to it.

What makes someone successful in setting and achieving a life-long goal?

How can you succeed where Oprah failed?

“Habit my friend, is practice long pursued, that at last becomes the man himself.” (Evenus)

  • Convert your intention to decision. It all starts with making the firm decision about what you want.
What is it that will bring you closer to the success you want? Don’t confuse your urgent tasks with your most important tasks. Your phone will always have unread messages but your exam will not always wait for you or what so ever your goal is.

  • Never allow a compromise to your habit pattern. 

  • Oprah sure did compromise, after having achieved her goal. She forgot that this was a life time venture. She forgot she had to maintain her status. In reality the goal is never to get slim, rich or wise. The real goal is or should be to remain slim, rich and wise. But once you start compromising you fail to understand that, the habits and daily routines are what brought the success. Hence, when they stop, you go back to your old self.

  • Tell others that you are going to begin practicing this particular behavior

Most Christians I know are radical once they come to Christ. They tell everyone, especially those who don’t really comprehend their new lifestyle that this is a lifestyle forever. They quit night clubs, girls/boys, drinking etc.

This habit of telling others is good one for it creates an accountability system, such that you can’t relapse. The day you stumble, they are the first to judge you. Given that no one loves being judged in his own words e.g “look at this new Jesus or she thought she was the new Mary, I knew he was fake with this Christian thing” etc. The mockery is huge and since we hate that sensations this will help us keep the right perspectives.

  • Resolve to persist in the new behavior until it is so automatic and easy that you actually feel uncomfortable when you do not do what you have decided to do

  • Behavior is practice, when did you start brushing your teeth? How hard was it for you to do it every morning? But now can you leave your house in the morning without it? No. until this goal becomes a lifestyle like yours on brushing teeth; you don’t declare victory like Oprah did in 2005 by saying. “I was done. I’d conquered it. I was so sure . . .” Never be so sure, until the habit becomes so automatic.
Even today, oprah is still quite big. But she The press still has interest in her wish to get slim, after 25 years of success and failure. She failed us, but we have just learnt why she did. Today you can make it, you don’t need to be a millionaire or billionaire to achieve lifestyle goals. But it is more efficient when you build a firm system.
When life puts you in tough situations, don’t say why me, say TRY ME” Miley Cyrus .
Written By:
V. Leslie Micheal 
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